This book is one of the best books I have ever read. Honestly. It has changed my marital life more than anything, and all for the better.
About 6 months into my marriage, I realized it was not what I thought it would be. And so did he. It just wasn't the kind of marriage I (or he) wanted. We were miserable, but we didn't know why. He was explosively angry. I was a nag. Big time. I just didn't know how to get things done other than nag and nag, because otherwise he didn't respond. Things were bleak, and I felt trapped. As did he. We decided to get out, after months of trying and things just getting worse. I was falling apart. My boss at the time brought in The Proper Care & Feeding of Husbands and told me it changed her marriage. I read it all in one sitting one sunday afternoon and cried my heart out. I started trying what this book told me to do. Trevor found an apartment and was moving out the next week. I had no idea what I was going to do. Within 4 days everything changed. Trevor cancelled the hold on that apartment. We felt happy again. This was finally what a marriage was supposed to be like! I'm not saying everything was perfect in 4 days. Old habits die hard. Many things had to be worked out and forgiven on both ends, but things did change and a huge burden was lifted off of us. Trevor's anger was gone because my nagging had ceased. I believe every woman, especially a married woman, needs to read this book! The funny thing is, I'm very much not a fan of Dr. Laura's, but I owe to her the success of my marriage, much of my individual happiness, and the fact that we went on to have the most gorgeous of baby girls. If you feel trapped, in a rut, or even perfectly happy, you have to read this book! What can it hurt?